Vietnam Adoption Parenting

home > parenting > new parent > baby sleep

Helping Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night

Jodi A. Mindell, author of Sleeping Through the Night, offer expert advice for adoptive parents on helping your child to sleep and sleep issues. Dr.Mindell is Pediatric Clinical Director of the Sleep Disorders Center at Allegheny University and assoiciate professor of psychology at St. Joseph's University. She is the author of numerous publications on the subject of pediatric sleep disorders. Her book Sleeping Through the Night provides research based suggestions for parents coping with their children's sleep issues.

Interview By Allison Martin

What advice would you give to parents of babies in the early days of their adoption?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: Get help! It will be difficult to predict how your baby/child is going to respond to sleeping in a new place, possibly having jet lag, and coping with so many life changes. To start, begin from the earliest days establishing a quiet routine before sleep time and continue to build on that as the days and weeks pass. You will clearly need to respond to your child's sleep cycles during this transitional period. So, as you may be going through your own jet lag and changes in your family, make sleep a priority for yourself by napping when the baby naps and seeing if someone else can help out at night, even if it is just for the early part of the night so that you can get some sleep and then take over the rest of the night.

What would you suggest for parents of children adopted at an older age?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: Again, expect a time of transition during those first few weeks, while at the same time establishing good sleep habits. Develop a consistent bedtime routine, maintain a similar sleep schedule day to day, and establish a warm and cuddly bedroom that is conducive to sleep.

What can parents do to help their children get to sleep?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: The key things that parents can do to help their children get to sleep is to have a set bedtime (preferably between 7:30 and 8:30), a consistent and soothing bedtime routine, and have their child fall asleep on his/her own.

What should parents do if their children waken during the night?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: All children wake during the night. The issue is whether or not they can return to sleep on their own. A child who can self-soothe to sleep at bedtime will be able to do so in the middle of the night. So, the best and easiest thing to do is to teach your child how to self-soothe at bedtime. Within about two weeks most little ones start naturally sleeping through the night. During this process, continue to respond to your child in the middle of the night.

What are some signs of sleep disturbance that parents might want to be on the lookout for?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: One of the most common serious sleep disturbances seen in children is obstructive sleep apnea, a breathing disorder that occurs during sleep. Some symptoms of sleep apnea are snoring, breathing pauses, mouth breathing, restlessness, and daytime sleepiness. If you are concerned about your child's sleep, speak with his/her physician or contact a sleep center in your area.

Restless legs syndrome is a neurological disorder that is characterized by a creepy-crawly feeling in the legs at bedtime. People with RLS feel a need to move their legs to make this uncomfortable feeling go away. In children, they have difficulty falling asleep and are often running about the house after being put to bed.

Nightmares are common in all children, especially between the ages of 3 and 6. Nightmares are part of normal development and young children often have nightmares of monsters and scary things. Children also have nightmares about specific events that may have worried them or scared them, such as getting lost in a grocery store or being afraid of a dog. Although there are no data available, I suspect that nightmares are common in adopted children, especially around the time of adoption for older ones. These children are going through many transitions in their lives which can be disorienting or even frightening. The best way for parents to handle nightmares is by providing lots of reassurance and comfort.

What prompted you to write Sleeping through the Night?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: I wrote Sleeping Through the Night in response to parents' need for accessible information on how to get their children to sleep through the night. Parents clearly want a gentler and kinder approach and a source for what to do when they encounter obstacles. One of these obstacles, which is usually not addressed elsewhere, is parents own emotional responses to dealing with their child's sleep problems and helping them cope with sleepless nights.

What are your future plans?

Dr. Jodi A Mindell: That is always a difficult question as so many exciting opportunities keep developing. In terms of research, this summer we are beginning a large scale project on sleep issues in internationally adopted children and the continuation of another project on sleep in twins. I am also continuing to work with DuPont Sleep Products on a sleep campaign. As part of this educational campaign we developed a free booklet entitled "How to Know When To Throw Your Pillow Away . And Other Tips to Ensure Sweet Dreams!" that can be gotten by calling 1-800-54-SLEEP. I have also been working with Walt Disney Records on sleep tips in conjunction with an upcoming lullabye album. So, as you can see, I keep busy and thoroughly enjoy balancing both academics and parent education about sleep.

Read review of Sleeping Through the Night

Back to: Vietnam Adoption Parenting


Vietnam Adoption Newsletter
Printed quarterly!

Vietnam Adoption Shop
Visit the Vietnam Adoption Shops
Cute Ao Dai, TShirts, Onesies, Gifts

Parenting Books
Adoptive Parenting
Kid's Adoption Books
Kids Multiracial
Kid's VN Books
VN Cook Books
VN Culture
VN Holidays
VN Movies